to theme or not to theme

It seems that having a themed wedding is all the rage nowadays. From a general look and feel (dreamy vintage, modern romantic, rustic country), a specific inspiration (fairy tale inspired, Cinco de Mayo, travel themed), cute and quirky (Up themed, candy inspired, school theme), to the downright weird (goth, zombie, Twilight), more and more couples decide to move away from the usual color motif based weddings and incorporate a theme into their weddings 

I must admit, I do enjoy themed weddings. The planning process for a themed wedding, though tedious, can actually be fun. Plus, I think it's a treat for guests to be transported into the couple's world, after all, it is all about the couple. 

But it is really necessary to have a theme?

In my opinion, not really. 

Since I've been known to be especially fond of wedding planning, sometimes people would ask me "What theme goes well with our wedding colors?". Honestly, I find it difficult to answer. There's nothing really wrong with wanting to have a theme. I just feel that it would be more meaningful if the theme came from somewhere special or significant between the couple rather than from a combination of colors. 

Weddings are supposed to be a celebration of the couple's union. Thus, a wedding should be reflective of who the couple is. Unfortunately, some couples get too excited about having a theme that they forget about what the celebration really is and end up losing their identity as couple in the process. 

See, If I were in the couple's shoes, I'd want to be able to look at my wedding photos after 10 years or so and not think "Why were we wearing sombreros on our wedding again?". I'd rather go "This reminds me so much of our romantic engagement in Mexico". See the difference?

So don't worry if you don't have a theme for your wedding. If you only have you and your spouse-to-be's favorite colors in mind, then by all means, work with it. The important thing is that, however way it is you decide to celebrate your wedding, it will hold a significant and meaningful place between you and your partner.